I’m often asked how to succeed in combat or self-defense situations. The answer doesn’t involve an ultimate technique or secret finger strike. Rather it is a state of mind, a warrior’s mindset: you must direct all the actors of the confrontation and make them do what you want. If you are confused, you won’t make the proper decisions during the conflict. One of your priorities is this, you want them to loose.
Grab them and pull them to you. Make them comply with how you want to fight.
Don’t let the aggressor dictate how the fight will be fought. If he wants to fight on the ground, stay up. If she wants to engage in a kicking match, slip inside to punch and throw. If he wants a punching match, pull back and start kicking. Or better yet, move the conflict to one of your strengths.